"Part of the goal in travelling with kids is to help them develop resiliency, and the love of exploring new experiences," says Diane Moody, a family and child therapist in Toronto. For the single parent, it can also allow you and your child to have each other's undivided attention. Alternatively, it can be a good opportunity for children to get to know a prospective new stepparent in a neutral setting. Some of her tips:
Give each child on the trip a chance to pick an activity even if others do not want to do it.
With younger children, take games, books and a "transitional object," such as a favourite stuffed animal or blanket, to help them create a sense of comfort wherever they go.
With children of any age, make room for naps or quiet time in the hotel room.
DESTINATION IDEAS
Sun and sand
This option is probably best for those with younger children. Check out Single Parents Travel Network ( www.singleparenttravel.net) or have your travel agent suggest one of the many resorts that now cater to single parents.
Test yourself
If you've never skied - or, better yet, are afraid to try - this is a surefire way to engage any child's interest, especially when they get to feel superior to you on the bunny hill. This approach also applies to surfing, scuba diving, rock climbing, whitewater rafting or mountain biking.
Outward Bound
There's nothing like surviving a gruelling wilderness expedition to bring people closer together. Courses include dogsledding and skiing; children must be 14 or over. For more information, visit outwardbound.org.
Special interests
NASCAR may not be your cup of tea. Or maybe it is, but your kid is into geocaching in Nunavut. Whatever, consider letting them choose the trip, then go with the flow. If nothing else, it'll make a good story to bond over in later years.